I think we all know somebody in our circle who, intentionally or not, leaves us unfocused and sapped of strength after an interaction with them. We devote valuable time to listening to their stories or dealing with their emotional dramas, while our workload deepens and our priorities get neglected. Think of how much energy and momentum you would have if you didn’t have to deal with these energy vampires?
In this episode, I’ll share with you five of the common types of energy vampires I’ve encountered and give you four strategies that you can implement immediately to limit their negative influence in your life.
PLUS, don’t miss this week’s Take Action Challenge and implement this week’s coaching tips.
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TAKE ACTION CHALLENGE:
To help you stay nimble, here is this week’s Take Action Challenge. Take these 3 action steps in the next week.
1. Review the descriptions of the common energy vampire types and ask yourself, do I have anyone in my professional or personal life that could be an energy vampire? As you move through the next week, be aware of your interactions. Does your energy level and physical body negatively change when you see a certain person? I’ll be honest, there were times in my professional life that the mere sight of a person would bring a knot to my stomach and put me in a mood. Chances are if you are feeling the same sort of reaction, you have a vampire in you midst. See if you can identify which category they fall into, or maybe they have an effect on you that we didn’t discuss. If so, try to articulate specifically what about interacting with this person affects you so negatively.
2. Review the four strategies for protecting you energy; being honest, setting better boundaries, moving them to action, and helping them to take accountability by asking for one thing. Determine which strategy will work best in helping you manage your particular energy zapper. It may actually be a combination of strategies that works best in your situation.
3. Implement at least one strategy this week during an interaction and evaluate the results. Did it help to direct their behavior in a positive way or did your efforts bounce off them like they were Teflon. Don’t get discouraged, it may take repeated efforts on your part before your vampire becomes aware that you are no longer an unlimited source of energy and moves on. This has happened to me a number of times when I use the move to action strategy. Sometimes people are really locked into just venting and when it becomes clear that I am not going to give them the time and attention they crave, they move on to the next person.